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Pinchas - Recognizing Our Potential

 

A fellow who works with a certain hesed organization in Lakewood told me that they were once helping the family of a woman who was gravely ill.  Her friends and neighbors wanted to know which mitzvot they could do as a merit for her recovery, so people from the organization traveled with the woman and her husband to South Fallsburg, to consult with Rav Elya Ber Wachtfogel, one of the great Rosheh Yeshiva in America today. 

 

Rav Wachtfogel's answer was very surprising.  He didn't mention things like Shabbat, kashrut, modesty, or lashon ha'ra (though it goes without saying that these are all exceedingly important). 

 

Instead, he noted that everyone – without exception – has a little bit of "nebuch" within them.  This means that everyone feels insecure or "messed up" in some way.  For some people it's their appearance.  For others it's some religious struggle that they just can't seem to overcome and they're embarrassed about.  For some it's finances, having less than the people around them.  For some it's a child, several children, or some other issue going on in the family.  We all have something that makes us feel uneasy about ourselves, that makes us feel like a "hazit," like we're a failure.

 

"What you should be working on," the Rosh Yeshiva said, "is encouraging people, lifting them up, emphasizing their strengths, letting them know how much goodness they have inside them."  This was his suggestion for a zechut (merit) for the ill patient.

 

Parashat Pinhas continues the story that began to be told in the previous parashah, about the time when the men of Beneh Yisrael became involved with the women of other nations.  At one point, a man named Zimri, who led the tribe of Shimon, publicly took a non-Jewish woman into a private place.  The Torah says that the people felt helpless, and just cried.  Then Pinhas arose and killed the violators, bringing an abrupt end to the deadly plague that Hashem had sent to punish the people.  In the beginning of our parashah, Hashem tells Moshe that He would be rewarding Pinhas בקנאו את קנאתי בתוכם – because he acted zealously for Hashem בתוכם – "among them," in the midst of the nation (25:11).

 

Different explanations have been given for why Hashem emphasized that Pinhas performed this act בתוכם, among the people.  But one particularly meaningful answer is offered by Rav Moshe Sternbuch.  He writes that before Pinhas acted, he was just בתוכם, one of the people.  He did not stand out in any way.  There was nothing exceptional about him.  He was just another Jew.  But this did not deter him.  He saw a need – and so he arose to fill that need.  He wasn't discouraged by his "ordinariness."  He didn't say to himself, "I'm a nobody, there's nothing I can do."  He knew what had to be done, and he did it.

 

Of course, Pinhas' situation was unique, and this kind of zealotry is not an example that we are supposed to follow.  But the lesson of בתוכם is timeless and extremely important.

 

Baruch Hashem, our community has grown over the years, and may it continue to do so.  Like all great blessings, this blessing of growth presents some challenges – one of which is the challenge of בתוכם.  As our community has grown, individuals become in their eyes smaller and less significant.  In the past, it was relatively easy to sense that each of us made a difference, that each of us was needed in some way.  But now, with the community so large, many people – especially youngsters – feel בתוכם, that they're just ordinary folks with nothing special to offer, with no special role to fill.

 

As Rav Wachtfogel said, we need to encourage and uplift one another.  Parents need to impress upon their children that they have exceptional gifts and talents that our community, and the Jewish world, need.  Spouses should be encouraging one another to excel and achieve. 

 

But perhaps most importantly, we need to encourage ourselves and to stop putting ourselves down.  We have to stop feeling "nebuch" and ordinary.  Yes, we have our issues, our struggles, our flaws and our faults, and yes, we've all made mistakes.  But this does not mean that we don't have the potential for greatness.  We need to recognize our potential and, like Pinhas, seize the opportunities to shine.  Let's stop being afraid, being embarrassed, and being insecure – and let's start living with self-confidence and with the firm belief that we are capable of doing great things, and that we have been brought here into the world to do great things. - Rabbi Joey Haber

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